RE: HP I have chalked the frequency decrease up to my health problems,.....or too worried about me I think the above modified version is the closest to the truth.
HP this is how it would work with me if I were your H or you were my W. It is how it is working with BB and me.
The fact that you have medical issues and pain has to be a major turn off for a caring guy. I would not want to physical cause pain to my lover. I realise it's a double issue with you. You want to ML but don't like the pain and limited penetration. I think Mr HP sees this.
The rest does play a part in a his drive to ML to you so I am not discounting it but will say the physical part is something hopefully that can be fixed. Worry about the rest less for now.