The problem is: I am trying to get OUT of that system. As a woman, I do not find it erotic whatsoever to be "in charge" of sex forever and ever, amen. To determine the frequency..to have to remind him when it's getting too far between ML..to suggest everything that we do...to tell him "hey I've got a sexy outfit on, look at me" etc etc.
Do you see what I'm saying?
A little aggression from him--or at the very least, him acting like I have something he wants--would do wonders for our situation. Him acting like he could take it or leave it until I press the issue is NOT.
Last night, I gently said that our frequency--which has slipped to about once per week--is not doing it for me and can we please try to up it next week? He said, Well we can do it right now if you want me to be DEAD TIRED tomorrow. I waited a moment and said, I really didn't like that response. He agreed that he was being a jerk and said that next week would be better.
