Quote: SO tell me, would you have been attracted to your H had he been more aggressive when you met???
He was more aggressive when we met. This new and improved H is due to many years of throwing himself into his faith and conquering his temperamental tendencies.
I am glad that he has mellowed--he was controlling and jealous to the nth degree when we were first together. However, he seems to have mellowed to such an extent that he is a shell of the MAN I knew.
I must say, though, that his tendency to say "I like whatever you like" has been there all along. In fact it is part of him. He is famous for the following scenario: He goes out to eat with a friend, coworker, boss, etc. The other person orders their food and H will say "I'll have the same". He doesn't want to take the time to figure out what he does want and, well, the other fella's food probably sounds ok to him. He does this with me, too.
But...to answer your question, yes, he was much more aggressive in the beginning. We talked about this on our date, how he acted while in the USMC and how he is now. Quite a contrast.
