HP... Once again we are living tandem lives...this weekend H and I were faced with differences in our personalities and communication styles, and I found myself having imaginary convos with Hank! H is very laid back and likes a "pleasant" tone in the house; I like the drama of some verbal banter. H grew up in a repressed, controlled environment, while in my house, there was always some expressive show going on. I know I was attracted to my H's quiet, calm demeanor, but sometimes I just feel the need to discuss things, and when I don't get the reaction I seem to feel I need, I escalate.
I am working on respecting H's basic nature and figuring out a compromise, but I don't know what that looks like yet.
I am glad you and H got to spent some QT together.
