Lately, I've been letting the knowledge that she's participating in and even initiating sexual encounters for my benefit rather than because it is what she enjoys bother me.
GGB:
I struggle with this same issue and have a few thoughts to share about it with you. First, having sex with my LDW even when it isn"t "good" for her is better than not having sex with her at all. Second, if she is initiating it, and she has recently, even though it does not end up in her O, she is reciprocating for things I am doing for her outside of the bedroom, and I am feeling loved by her for realizing I speak the Physical Touch Language of Love. Please feel free to use this rationalization if it helps: Over the course of a weekend when we are together, typically I spend 6 to 8 hours doing things that she wants to like going shopping or to a party that one of her friends is having; or doing things for both of us like chores around the house or cooking our meals. In return, an hour in the sack is not really too much to ask for, and if she is willing and even going to initiate some of the time, I am going to graciously accept it.
My LDW enjoys kissing and snuggling. I try to do those things when we ML so that there are some rewarding "strokes" for her, even if she has no desire to O.
