But, Mrs, don't you think this is comparing apples to oranges?
You have sex every day with NOP with a wonderful and fun attitude. You nurture that side of him which shows his love in sexy ways, as well as your own side. You are responsive to his overtures. You have made this a priority in your life.
Most of the LD spouses on this board haven't done this so when "it's not good enough" is posted--or even hinted at--I think it's safe to say that we simply don't know what we're talking about.
I don't know what it's like to be sexually satisfied, all the time. I don't know what it's like to have my husband respond nicely to my overtures with no hint of embarrassment or "that's gross". I don't know what it's like to have him try to bring out my sexiness, or even show signs that he's aware of my alleged sexiness.
Perhaps this is just me offering an excuse for a viewpoint that is unfair, I don't know.
All I know is that I am a compassionate person and I know the difference between a person who is giving his all and a person who is holding back. I can feel the difference. I have compassion for his fear of intimacy but I have no patience for it, is the best way to phrase it!
At any rate, your post struck a nerve with me and your point is duly noted.
