Sometimes there are those 'undercurrents'. Other times they aren't there or I don't notice. More often, it is a voice inside my head reminding me of things she has said in the past about sex not doing anything for her, and comments she's made about how far she's stretched or that I am insatiable. She hasn't read any of the books, she won't talk to her doctor about it, and generally won't look beyond herself for answers about it. She says LM should come naturally and she shouldnt need those outside things. She won't touch herself, finds it disgusting. Won't consider blue movies or racy novels (she skips over the sex scenes in books as well as R-rated movies). See, that would be OK if it was the way she approached everything, but it isn't. Other things, like scouts or quilting, for example, she takes classes, reads, surfs the web etc to gather as much info as she can about the subject. When it comes to sex or even relationship issues, that is supposed to somehow come to her in a dream or something. I think that is what bugs me the most, just the seeing her not put in the same amount of effort she does for less important things.
