I got kinda pissy and walked out of the room to keep from lashing out at her about it. Later when we were in bed I told her that the I'm too fat remarks hurt me because she complains about it, uses it as an excuse, but isnt' really doing much about it. The I'm fat comments have gotten far to frequent (several a day), and is a convenient excuse for everything from swimming, going out, ML, etc. Anyway, I'm trying to avoid the that's OK, you're not too fat for me statements, because I don't think those statements are helping any. I don't think she believes me when I say them, but at the same time she is getting some validation for maintaining the status quo. Anyway, the I'm too fat comments have become her way of raining on my parade.
BTW, I sent you an email with more info on my trip to your state. I didn't want to put that detail in the public forum.
