Honest to goodness, SM? I think he just thought, Well there's nothing on the tube, I don't have a book to read, she's getting in the shower, hey I know! I'll go get a little work done.
Which I really don't care about. I just get filled with resentment over the idea that he can and will work certain things into his schedule but that does not extend to his wife. The thinking is that I will always be here; the other stuff will not. He can put me off and put me off because, shoot, 10 years from now he'll still be married to me.
He has admitted countless times to taking me for granted but he still does it. And here I am perpetuating that cycle by always being available!
His avoidant behavior, btw, comes about when we are in bed and snuggling together. He will either drift off to sleep, or pussyfoot around, sortof caressing the bits, sortof not, confusing me as to what his motives are. He hates going for what he wants--he said that last night. I said, So you want me to do all the work for you and you sit back and enjoy it? He said, Yes!!
