Lou, re your questions about the BJ in the Yard-- he's not against bj's, in fact, that's about all we do (when we do anything) because of the ED issues. He is different from the men I have known in the past in that he does not seem to feel any need to reciprocate after the bj.
I think the issues is closer to what Honey describes... he just wants to control himself. Maybe he thinks that if he gets to Doing It and Liking It a lot, somehow he'll be in my power. Maybe this ties in with his refusal to do ANYTHING on my schedule unless he thought of it first. OIW a huge control issue.
