You're scaring me . I really admire the people on this BB who are trying to deal with this problem at stages in their lives when I don't feel like I'd be brave enough. I think I was too chicken to deal with it when my kids were little and I think I'd be too chicken to deal with it when I had been married for multiple decades and was dealing with aging issues. I feel like warning all the younger HDW who are still deeply mired in family life that any compromise they make now regarding this issue is likely to need serious renegotiation at midlife and I feel like all the older couples on the BB offer a sort of warning to me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
. I really admire the people on this BB who are trying to deal with this problem at stages in their lives when I don't feel like I'd be brave enough. I think I was too chicken to deal with it when my kids were little and I think I'd be too chicken to deal with it when I had been married for multiple decades and was dealing with aging issues. I feel like warning all the younger HDW who are still deeply mired in family life that any compromise they make now regarding this issue is likely to need serious renegotiation at midlife and I feel like all the older couples on the BB offer a sort of warning to me. 
