Quote: As an HD woman, I am continually amazed at how some women are 'allowed' to act...what they get away with...and still have these whipped men chasing after them, hoping for a scrap of kindness or affection.
You know one of my theories is that our Hs are LD so that they won't end up "whipped" like this. If a kid tells himself that he doesn't like cookies anyways then he never has to do what Mommy wants.
My LD friend told me that her H had said something to her that was rude. I asked her what and she told me he said "Are you still in your pajamas?". So I told her Mr.W's latest gem which was "The way you are wearing your hair makes you look very 1970's butch.".
Lately, I've been considering a mental 180 on the "leverage" issue which reverses the usual marital sexual economics. Instead of thinking of sex as something I have to "pay" my LD partner for in some form, I could consider sex as something my partner "owes" me and if I don't receive it I should get compensation. For instance, on each occasion I don't get laid 2x a week, I should take $50 from his bank account and spend it on something fun just for me. If he doesn't put out he can pay up.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
