I saw an interesting thing at swimming lessons the other day. This gal who had been there with her two kids every day was sitting in the chair, furiously doing bills.
Her husband walked in..I deduced that he must have taken off work to come see the kids swim. He had that excited, expectant look on his face of a guy who is breaking his routine and happy to see his family. She did not even look up from her bills. He said Hi!, she mumbled something. The entire time he was there, he sat with the little boy and cuddled and kissed him. Not that this means much, but the mother had never done any of this on the other days. He kept trying to get her attention but she was not looking up from her planner. The lesson was over and they left.
But I was sitting next to them and you know what I was thinking? Well several things.
Firstly, I was AMAZED that women can get away with this type of behavior. I wouldn't even think of it. Since my H is not irresistably drawn to my body, I can't imagine giving him the cold shoulder, also. I have to use my sunny personality to draw him in towards me and THEN he might want to have sex.
Secondly, it is not really my personality to be that unrelentingly crabby with another person, knowing they are trying to get close to me. I'd feel terrible doing that, unless it was the aftermath of an argument. (which it very well could have been, who knows) It seemed like business as usual for them, tho.
As an HD woman, I am continually amazed at how some women are 'allowed' to act...what they get away with...and still have these whipped men chasing after them, hoping for a scrap of kindness or affection. This woman did not take care of herself, she looked like a slob, and she was flat out rude to him.
I had a brief moment of "Where did I go wrong??" and then I thought that this must be how it appears to the HD guys as well. You fellas probably look at our H's and wonder why we bother and what they do to deserve our focus.
C'est la vie, right.
Ok, now I'm going to really do something productive today.
