Journey, My H is a loner, like our friend Zsomethingorotherbube.
His friends would be his two brothers and...that's really it. He sees his brothers at family functions of course, and they do something socially a few times a year, if that.
He is friendly and people love him, but he does not cultivate friendships.
Most of the men at his jobs over the years are the type to complain about not getting any. This makes H feel dreadfully uncomfortable, as he thinks it is in poor taste and it sorta makes him vow to be even more in control of his sexuality--so that he doesn't ever act like THAT. I agree that public complaining about lackanookie is in bad taste but I would have the opposite reaction and think, Yeah man me neither. Only silently.
If only there were a hardcore Catholic man who was head over heels in love with his wife who could gently make jokes about it, all in a context of sacrificial love. Now THAT would pique his curiosity! GGB, when are ya moving to Misery. lol
Journey, I have an LD type 4 sister who complains a lot about her R with her husband. I have considered bluntly asking, How's your sex life? but was unsure how she'd take that. As close as I am to her (we speak every day) she does not know my HD secret. It simply has never come up. If it does I will not hesitate to tell the truth, but it hasn't come up. She makes comments quite often that her husband would be happy so long as she's naked, but it's always said in that disdainful way. So I didn't feel like I could jump in and take his side! Plus, she's my best friend and I mistakenly came clean about my libido with my SIL, who was a very close friend of mine, and the friendship cooled fast and furiously.
