Last night, my H was in the mood to talk and I was mentally chastising myself to shutup and not interrupt and employ empathy, etc.
And then it hit me: All those annoying Type 7 conversational habits really don't crop up with my H. I find him such an interesting person to talk with. When we are talking, we can end up staying up pretty late just chatting with each other. Empathy is there. No interrupting or "let's talk about me", etc.
It was a nice surprise to find that it's not a chore to have to do this. Of course, he's a people pleasin type 6 and has a mostly sunny disposition and interesting stories. One thing about my H is that his esteem is not that high. So rather than blab all his life stories, he tends to not share them, thinking that they are not all that colorful, right. So he doles em out, slowly over the years. The result is that I am always finding out new things about him.
Last night we spent some good quality time together and then went to bed. He was making some tentative moves towards sex but nothing definitive. I was just about to ask him what his pleasure was...sex or sleep..when he said, How about we make a date for sex for tomorrow night. I'm fine with that. The 'hotness' of it is diminished somewhat because I think, here you've got a guy who has his hands on my *****, he is hard, we are not tired, we have a strong EC from talking, we are both naked. So I'm thinking, I wonder why tomorrow night sounds good but right now doesn't?
Oh well, tonight it is! Good thing he invested the time in me to develop the EC so that I was not disappointed or resentful that my squeezy bits elicited a hardon but not enough desire. Ok, so maybe there's a tiny bit of resentment but honestly, folks, it is SO tiny that even I can get a handle on it.
