Identity anxiety. What an interesting concept. It really fits him, too.
He most certainly, absolutely, positively DOES NOT identify himself as a sexy person. Or a person who likes sex enough to actively seek it out. Or a person who would need it badly enough to "bother" someone for it. Or a person who likes all the nitty gritty, down and dirty aspects of it. Do ya get where I'm going with this?
It's almost like he separates himself from his sexuality. He likes it when it happens but he prefers it boxed off somewhere far away, to be taken out when the need arises.
The problem with this type of thinking is that if it's boxed away somewhere, the onus is completely on the other person to say, Hey get that box out! so you can play with it. He boxes his sexuality away and then is confused as to why it's not at the forefront of his mind.
Journey, What else can ya tell me, my sister? How did you climb out of this type of thinking? And I have to tell you that I find your whole trip amazing.
