Quote: the one reason that really was the nail in the coffin was when being LD became a part of how I viewed myself; it became part of my identity and I didn't have a problem with it.
IMO this is why disclosure is a useful tool in dealing with LD. For instance, would you have been able to maintain your positive LD self-image if you thought it was possible that your H was going around telling everyone you knew that you hadn't had sex in a year? I mean you might have thought he was an *ss for doing this but it probably would have activated some little switch in your brain that would make you admit that your sich wasn't exactly "normal" or at least indicative of a good, healthy marriage. This is why I think I "freaked out" my Type4 LD friend the other day when I told her I was HD. She was looking for support for her LD and I gave her kind of the opposite, though in a nice way.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
