Thanks for the advice. I can't see him ever agreeing to therapy but I will bring it up anyway.
The fear he has is that I don't want to ML. That he is forcing himself on me. I don't get this, but I will say that this is in keeping with the rest of his personality. He is unfailingly polite.
I'm wondering if reformed LD people like MrsNOP ever really get past this, or if they just become more accomodating..?
I read an article by a sex therapist that said that HD women have a tougher time of things because the LD man cannot just "do it" in the way the ladies can. Their desire and arousal have to be present, obviously.
Well, to answer your question I don't think it is performance anxiety, he was raised dysfunctionally (sexually speaking, and probably other ways too), and I honestly don't know if he is intimidated by me. Most ways, I'd say no but sexually--perhaps. I'll ask. Good food for thought.
