Quote: I'm not so sure that the vinegar spewage is limited to--or even more often committed by--women.
Maybe not, but how many people of either gener would consider that news?
Quote: I think men do just as much with their hurtful tongues as we chicks. I can tell you that MrHP is every bit as prone to angry outbursts as me.
Point taken.
Quote: Though H did not technically inherit this tendency, he sure learned how not to act from him. He has had to really try to get a lid on his violent tendencies and to his credit he has lashed out at me only a handful of times in our entire marriage. Considering where he came from, this is really admirable.
Exactly, it is learned behavior! My MIL is the whiner's whiner. My W considered whining a valid form of adult communication until just the last year.
Quote: In recent years, he has undertaken the task of becoming more pleasant to be around and less apt to complain and biatch about everything. I'm so proud of him for this and find him inspirational!
Good for the both of you. Keep encouraging him in this. BTW can you share some of the ways you managed to accomplish this?
Quote: I have a list of faults, all related to anger, myself and will gladly share them if anyone asks (lol)
That's OK.
Quote: I wanted to respond to the notion that women are more prone to vinegar than men. It's simply not true, though it may be your personal experience.
That it is. Again who would consider it news? My W was so stunned to find that her own speaking of fewer than 3 sentences a day that were neither complaints nor orders could deteriorate our R.
Quote: At any rate, thanks for the Amazon link! You are a fountain of knowledge, did anyone ever tell you that.
Quite welcome. That's the purpose of this BB. Let us know if any of those tomes work out for you. Yes, some friends have commented that I should be on various trivia game shows.
