NOP, You have spoken here that your great issue in your marriage was anger.
What steps did you take to eliminate it? Did you read any useful books? Care to make any recommendations?
Anger is one of my many wonderful traits as well. For the most part, I have conquered this. And MrHP would heartily agree with this as well. But I still feel those twinges sometimes where I think I'm gonna blow.
MrHP complimented me last night on how well I am holding my tongue with regards to Jackass, his big boss. I am not making any snide comments (aside from the above nickname, which I mean in an endearing way...I really do LOL), or ranting and raving at the injustice, or prodding MrHP to do or say things for the sake of vengeance. I'm staying out of it and praying for this man.
Also, did you get a handle on your anger before the daily sex? You know that we folks on the bb who are not entirely sexually satisfied are gonna say, Well yeah he can get a handle on his anger--he's having sex every day!
As you know, I recently went on a vacation with my mother, my aunt, 2 of my 4 sisters and a cousin. My mom's temper is identical to mine. While we were there, she had a blowup. My aunt and cousin were freakin out, but my sisters and I were just standing there saying, doh there goes Mom again. She was 100% in the right for being peeved off, but the...intensity of her anger was a bit over the top. Like me, she takes forever to get mad but forever to cool down, too. Our other relatives thought she was under too much job stress or something, lol, and we sisters were cracking up saying, Naw she's always been like this.
When we got back to the hotel, my sisters and I grabbed a bottle of wine and went to the beach and drank it and reminisced about Mom and her temper. But not without me silently thinking to myself, Is this what MY daughters are going to do someday?
So, NOP, I'm interested in what you have found out about managing your temper and books or articles that you found helpful.
