Dear Blonde, well aren't our sitch's similair. My H today has blamed me for his R not working out with OW can you believe that.....I am feelin just like you pi$$ed off to the max. I am so upset and angry I can barely function, but have come here vented on my thread and started reading others to try and calm down and it is slowly working. This site would have to be the best thing ever for all of us and think how lucky we are to have it. When you think about it our H's without their OW have nothing, nothing at all and it is there own stupid fault. I think this is a lesson they need to learn for themselves and there is nothing we can do to make it better. We have to sit back let them be ar$eholes and wait and see if they come crawling back and if they do we need to see where we are at and whether we want them back. Until that day comes I think we can only look after ourselves and our kids. As NYS says we are responsible for our own actions and cannot control WAS's actions so we shouldn't try. I just wanted you to know I understand how you are feeling and how upset you are they have a wonderful way of making us feel like $hit beneath their feet and I guess that is our 1st 180 not to let them make us feel like that. We have both slipped off the horse and need to jump right back on even though we feel like we have been kicked by the same horse. Hope you are starting to feel better and you have good friends on this board, Anna, Dodger and NYS always have pretty good advice......Keep strong.....DKD
