Don't let H's actions or reactions get to you. Right now he is going through a lot of stuff, i.e. fight with sister's H, giving up OW, and who knows what else. (Is Melinda the OW?) The best thing to do right now is let H sort all of this out by himself. I know you want to get answers to all the questions you asked him, but if you did would you believe the answers? I used to ask my H the same questions and when he gave me the answers, I didn't believe him. So don't put yourself through that turmoil.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years