I am confused #3

[kaydeekay]

Why cant they end it cold turkey? Why does he tell me its over when it doesnt look like it? I dont know what to do right now....should I ask him about it or just let it eat me up?


I feel for you hon. I know exactly what you are going through. With all the DBing, PMA's, GAL's...that we've learned we are finally at the stage of our sitch where our WAS are ready to work on our M. Great..right? Well you would think. Now comes a different set of fears and doubts. My H did the same thing. Said it was over when it actually wasn't.

Listen to NY and Dodger's advice. There is nothing you can do or say right now. H has come to a crossroad where he wants to work on the M but yet OW is pressuring him to come back to her. My H went through the same thing, needless to say he left our home BUT he is not living with OW as he did in the past, which is good.

Just be patient with H struggling through this. As you know the A/OW is like an addiction and he will be going through withdrawls. You may not want to hear this but be prepared for H to make contact with OW. I wish they would give up OW cold turkey and return to the loving, adoring H we fell in love with. But this is not the case.

Don't let this eat at you. I know it's easier said than done.

Hang in there...