Quote: H hurts my feelings because Hannah wants her daddy and he makes time for everything else except her.
Wow i have to tell you this I have 3 kids and my youngest 3yrs is Hannah also. Out of my kids she is the only one that says she wants Daddy (the other 2 say they don't want to see or talk to him cause he only thinks of himself and what he wants!!)your H sounds like he's in the same place as mine is right now. It's all about them and too bad about everyone else including their children. My H is nasty with his words to me cuz he knows i take to heart all that he says and then i feel bad. I then am busy blaming myself for everything and it takes the bad feelings he has for what he's doing off of him because then i'm so busy trying to make things better for us, because of course i don't want him to get any angrier so im trying to make everything right and him happy again. It's kind of a sick game that they play with us and our emotions. My H has even told me a few times that he's sorry and that i didn't deserve to be treated like that so that he can reel me back in and then slap me in the face again. I think it makes them somehow feel better about themselves and what they are doing.
My can be nice as pie too me also if he needs or wants something from me and now that im putting this down for you to read i thinks it becoming clear to me that he does this to see if he still has the hold on me to have me and the OW and it shows him that im still not strong enough or have GAL so things can just stay the same "the way that he wants them to be....the best of both worlds!!!"
Quote: I did say that by his actions it looks as if our marriage is goin no where...he said thats fine with him.
Another realization i'm just having by hearing you say this because i say it too is.... it doesn't have to go anywhere because by letting them treat us this way we are letting our M stay this way...exactly the way they want it to...a W and a OW...that's what they are wanting right now!!!
We both need to GAL, be strong, detach and do a 180 in order for their behavior to change at all and to make us feel better about ourselves and more in control of our situations!!! We can do this together and then at least maybe it won't feel so lonely and scary which will make it easier
Hope i've helped you a little bit because reading your sitch has given a whole new light to my own. Thank you so much and i'm hear to cheer you on should you need it! I know i do!
