I must be tainted....but I am going to type my thoughts anyways....lol!
After reading through a lot of different threads the past few days it made me think about quite a few things... 1) I haven't been able to pinpoint what I did to our M to make it go sour and then I read a post. I may have encouraged him to be on his own...I encouraged him to have hobbies and do things so that he didnt feel so confined. I think that by encouraging him to do things and feel free he may have felt that it was alright to have another woman...maybe he felt to free. 2) Maybe I am still blind to my other actions but I have really been focusing on them. We didnt argue, we had a great sex life, and I felt that we were great companions.
I knew that he was going to lunch with the OW not knowing that she was an OW at the time. I didn't mind because I believed that you trust someone until that trust is broken. H would drive by neighbors and friend with OW in the car and still honk and wave. This made me believe that nothing was going on.
I am trying to pinpoint my errors so that I may grow stronger and not continue doing them over and over again. I need to find an inner peace. I have detached a lot and I am doing my own thing but I can't stop focusing on what I did to make him go to another woman.
