Quote: Why would he want to be with someone so mean like that.
Michelle, why do you think, (forgive me but) they're so alike. He's mean to you, she's mean to you. It may seem real easy for me to say from a distance, but you don't need that s**t!!
Quote: I need to grow some balls and use them to stand my ground
Ya, think? Sorry if I sound harsh Mish, I don't mean to be. But (and anybody please tell me if I'm full of crap) it almost seems like your H gets some kind of charge out of being mean and saying crappy things to you. Maybe because he knows he can get away with it. I know it kinda goes against DBing but where to draw the line.
I have an idea! I actually have 2 extra tickets to tonights Dodger game about 8 sections away from my seats. You know how to reach me. Why don't you take Hannah to the game and enjoy a Dog and a Coke and get away from reality a for little while. I'll be in Long Beach this afternoon. You can e-mail me and I can arrange for you to pick them up.
I'm the Training Manager/IT Liaison for our Division of the company and we have 20 locations throughout So Cal...That accounts for the 3000 miles a month on the Pathfinder...
BQT1 - these certainly seem like people who deserve each other. One of the things i have been struggling with in the dark is do i want to be with my W because i love her, i want to make her happy, because i know she is the one for me OR because i am enamoured with the though of the "Leave it to Beaver" family - in short why do i want to be there. I still come back to the first one for me. but no one should have to be treated the way you are, peoples feelings are not a joke or a game. I would encourage you to make a decision and stick to it - this is either the man you see yourself with watching the sun go down on the SoCal shore in 50 years or it is not - you will always be attached to him in some way shape or form since you have had children. Not to cast aspersions on your H, but it does not seem like he is the type to play an active role in his childs life - and with the way he acts that is not a bad thing - sorry to psudo vent on your thread - stay strong and remember you are a better / stronger person than when this started - he is the one walking out on the fairy tale - you are the one letting go of the horror flick!
Sorry to hear about your sitch. Hoped you took up on DMF's offer...sounded like something you and Hannah needed. Like NY said, you need to drop the rope on H. H is being an a**hole right now and I'm sure OW is enjoying every minute of it. I've always told my H there are 2 sides of every story and his side was not as bad as he told everyone...so I'm sure the OW is hearing all kinds of bad things about you and how badly you treated your H. My H played the victim in our sitch and had everyone feeling sorry for him until they found about OW and basically turned their backs on him. My H is now back at home and has been H for 5 weeks now, which is a record since October 2004.
My advice would be not to answer H phone calls, don't call him just to say hi, don't email, dont' text him...end all contact with H unless of course it is about Hannah. Trust me this has worked for me in the past, and it won't be easy.
My H and I are dealing with all kinds of issues right now with OW, check out my thread.
DON'T BUY HIM A CAR!!! Due to my H's inability to handle his own finances and making promises to me in the past about taking care of some of our bills (that did not get paid) we are now going to have to file bankruptcy
Hang in there.
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
Guess What Everyone????? I have been doing great with not calling H....(Yeah me)lol. I have spoken to him though. H told me that he has been worried about me because I haven't called him lately. I was polite and said that I have just had a lot of things going on. :-) Don't get me wrong...things have been hard but I have been keeping myself busy and my mind on Hannah and everything else. Today is stepson9 birthday and I am suppose to go to H mom house for dinner. I am not sure if I should go but I am just thinking about Devin(s9). He never did anything wrong. How do I behave there....well, you know what I mean. Yesterday H called and I called him back and we didn't talk about R but H said that he is not ready to move on to the next step....the big "D"..I think that his mind is wandering now. H said that he would like to come home still...but wishes we sould get along better/always.(The only time that we ever argue is because of OW) I am getting sick of the drama...and after the email and phone call from OW with all of the things that she slapped me in the face with....I have a little wall built around my heart....well, at least I am trying to build it. A lot of bad things were said...especailly that when we were intimate he didnt want to be. (I am not the one that started things)he said that he felt that he was using me.(Maybe because he love OW??? Who knows) I am not absorbing everything anymore...I dont want to be sad and frusterated anymore...We (Hannah and me) don't deserve it) I feel a lot stronger today..plus now I have had three date proposals...but I dont think that I am ready for that yet. I don't know what the next step is with H and I am going to take it one day at a time. Does anyone have any suggestions for birthday dinner tonight. How I need to act and things that I should/shouldn't do? Please help!
Quote: Does anyone have any suggestions for birthday dinner tonight
I say, go dressed to kill. Perfect dubbing oportunity. Act as if you don't have a care in the world, put your problems asside and have fun. Give him a glimpse of what he is missing.
