Dont worry too much about the trying to buy his love and affection, yes it was not right to think just because you help him buy a car he will stop his R with OW....Believe me first hand. I was not trying to use the motorcycle as a tool to make him stop talking to OW, but I did think that the bike would help reconnect us, so in a way I pushed for the purchase. H ultimately made the decision as he had been eye balling it since Nov...But he left 4 days after we picked up the bike...SO DONT DO IT GIRL DOnt help with the car ok
I add my vote to the DON'T BUY HIM A CAR team! It won't do a damn thing to change his mind, just will give him a new car and a new line of how badly he can treat you.
You are worth more than that!! WAAAAY more than the price of a car! Don't devalue yourself, ok?
You and I soooo need to get some drinks together! Maybe a little dancing in our stilettos. And someone to babysit our angel-babies.
As I write this, I hope you are laying on the sand at Huntington Beach with Hannah next to you (covered up with an umbrella or something to protect your little treasure) enjoying the beautiful weather. I (and I'm sure many others out here) am thinking about you today, hoping that this weekend has brought some clarity and strength to your thoughts and being.
We want to hear some good news from you when you get home.
Well I am alive everyone.....lol! I had a nice weekend with Hannah and I was enjoying it. I didn't speak to H on Friday and then at one thirty in the morning on Saturday H text messaged me to let me know that he was home and to wish me sweet dreams. It pissed me off a little because he woke me up and then to let me know that he was home after he partied all night. I did speak to him briefly on Saturday and he told me that he had gone out with one of his guy friends and had a nice time....Good for him! I saw H on Sunday...I think that maybe he thought that he could get a car because he was loving. He told me that he loved me and that he wanted to come home but I keep ruining things. I asked him how....he said that sometimes I get in a frusterated mood and it pushes him away. WTF! I am frusterated...he is sleeping with another woman and I am suppose to always be happy. He said that his mom and sister know that he really wants to come home. Well, that is good that they believe his words...but what about his actions....:-) He also told me that in his head that he doesn't like being married...and sometimes he does. I told him that he should go to someone and talk about it. He said that he doesn't like to talk to people about his life. I feel that he might feel trapped with the word "married" sometimes...that means responsibility....no sleeping with another...taking care of the family. We did get along really well but he was weird about his shirt....I know this sounds weird but OW always marks him on his body/chest and when its like that he is really weird about his shirt moving. I tried to look over that but my heart still hurts. We really got along great and I was happy all night..and then at 1130pm he called me to say good night but was short and blunt. He told me that he had gone to dinner...I didnt ask with who...and now he was really tired and was going to sleep. He was a little rude and then got frusterated when I tried to talk to him for a minute and then he hung up on me....turned off his phone but text messaged me "Go to sleep." WTF I was asleep until he called and ruined it. Please let me know...it sounds like he is really playing mind games. I need a new tactic. I want to be married and happy but I need to be treated good. Any suggestions?
But...more important... Hannah is go great..I kove her so much and she makes my days wonderful. We took pictures yesterday afternoon but I can't see them until today...nothing fancy...just a place in the mall...nothing was planned. I can't wait to see how they turned out. We had a great weekend together and she loves to see the waves come in and try and run from them.
Welcome back. It's great that you feel refreshed after a nice weekend away with Hannah. Again you deserved it.
Now, don't take any S**t now that you're back. Stay on course. No car for him. You don't have to stay on the phone and listen to meanness. You can respectfully say you don't want to hear this kind of stuff and you need to go. Bye.
Go Michelle, you're strong, you know it. If you need anything reach out!!
I'll be combing your hood tomorrow afternoon. I have to be at the Long Beach store. Better not let me catch you out in public without a smile on your face and Hannah in your arms .
I give up, alright big D, what is it that you do, I have analized just about every possible job and can not come to a definitive conclusion on the type of job that you have. I'm a production manager and only have 2 meetings a week, in on the other hand you seem to have 5 a day not to mention all the traveling among other things. Put me out of my misery...
I had the worst argument with H and OW. She decided to email me and tell me about their relations and throw the fact that he was with her for my birthday in my face. It was horrible. I cried all day long yesterday. My face was hardened with salt water from the tears. I really think that it over for good. Maybe its for the better but it sure hurts right now. Why would he want to be with someone so mean like that. She makes me look like the fool that I am. I can't do this anymore. I can tell that he talks about me to her. She said that she wants my H and that she will have him. :-( I believe that she will...I just hope that my daughter doesnt have to be subjected to her vendictive behavior. My H believs everything that she says and makes me feel like I am a liar. I hope that one day he sees her for what she really is. I need to grow some balls and use them to stand my ground...lol!
Sorry to interupt...but first day on the site. I have ordered the books and I am awaiting their arrival ..so that I can get started...however I've got a question that is eating me up...my wife told me she no longer wants to be married that she has been unhappy many years and that she is finished with our marriage ( yeah in hind sight I see all the clues - however I also find out that at the same time she met someone else (she says one is not related to the other just a coincidence) and that this affair is ongoing two meetings but lots of e-mail there is great distance between them 1500 miles) Question should I contact HIS wife and let her in on the affair or just keep quite? and do my own thing. Thanks for any assistance.
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