Sometimes I think we are both so alike. I so want to call my H right now, knowing he is with her, it is turing my stomach. But everyone here is right, start doing for you. I keep obsessing too right now. I did realize something about myself during all of this...I am a good person, I am loving and kind. I know that you can say the same things about yourself. Stop beating yourself up and I will stop beating myself up...DEAL????