I agree with everyone else and I will tell you what everyone tells me...You have to decide what you want, not what he wants. It may be true that he is trying to push you to the point where you take action so he doesnt have to. I often think that my H tries the same thing (just not in the same manner yours does). Its only natural to be hurt by H's words, you are human, but dont let them get the better of you. You are the better person here. Many people have told me over the past few days to do alot of vindictive things because of H's latest antics (buying a motorcycle then leaving three days later) and my answer to them was why? Does that make him love me again? No it doesnt. In the end if things dont work out for me, I want him to look back and say MAN I F'ed up. Look at what I am missing. Not she was a bitch, etc. So be the better person here, no matter how hard it is. I am thinking of you.
