Quote: JJ.....What a baby!!! Then to be soooo juvenile and refuse to help your mom.
Cally, Don't be too hard on Jen's H for balking at helping her mom move. At least not w/o hearing his reasons...
I went through similar nonsense when my in-laws moved to our neck of the woods from 600 miles away. I noticed that they insisted on bringing bank statements from the 1960's and boxes of god-knows-what that have not even seen the light of day for at least 20 years--hard-core pack rats you understand. Example: My FIL kept the original perscription bottles for his meds for most of his adult life (we recently celebrated hi big nine-O, to put this in perspective). He had eyeglasses from at least 20 years back--it was I who informed him of the Lion's Club and their noble activity. After my in-laws moved into our neck of the woods, (w/o our help despite our offers--my MIL, in fact, did not even belive that she would have to move after closing) my W considered, for all intents and purposes, moving there on weekends (i.e. taking the Friday afternoon commuter train to their place and calling me for a ride home on Sunday) to help them unpack and set up housekeeping. This would last in her words, "Until I am satisfied with their living arrangements". Never mind that she and her mother are unpleasable (although my W is now working to become pleasable) and at that time she wouldn't do anything around OUR house without putting up a hissy fit first. Furthermore, this was the only time that we were MLing, so on my end this would mean total celibacy 'til my W succeeded in pleasing two (2) unpleasable women (one of them her).
In the convo about this matter, my W did try to lay a guilt trip for balking about an open-ended abandonment. A revealing exchange: W: "Where exactly SHOULD [emphasis original] my priorities be?" ME: "The answer is on your left hand." W: "I know we're married, but..." [more lame rationalizations follow].
We finally agreed to one and only one weekend for this. Yes, she got a lot done. No, no one was satisfied, but for two of those involved, that is par for the course. As my W is her parents' executor, she'll have quite a time liquidating those estates.
The point being, don't pass that kind of judgement on Jen's H w/o know what exactly "helping move" involves.
wdiftya
PS Enjoy the holiday and remember what we celebrate.
