Usually I am the more frugal one in our household and my H made the argument that perhaps we should pay off some of our debt before I take a trip. The thing that p*sses me off is that as far as I'm concerned the reason why we have debt to pay off is that my H made some very financially irresponsible decisions to quit jobs he didn't like over the last several years. It's okay for me to share the responsibility for decisions he made due to his eternal misery but it's not okay for me to do something slightly irresponsible just to have some fun. I feel like there will never be any equity in this relationship because my H will always be more miserable than me and therefore feel like he deserves more resources.
However, I am willing to acknowledge that by choosing to remain married to my H through all his unemployment fiascos, I did accept responsibility for half the debt and therefore I am choosing to do the mature frugal thing and not take the trip. Please consider my previous post on the topic to be a variety of Type 7 sour grapes along the lines of "I will never have any fun as long as I am married to this moody LD Type 4.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
