JJ... I think it's healthy to feel that you will be okay no matter what happens with the marriage. That's the ideal I strive for...to be an autonomous person who is choosing to stay married, instead of feeling trapped and resentful. Apart from staying married for the kids and financial reasons, I need to feel lucky to have my H, be enriched by the relationship and miss him if he were not here. I hope that will be the case when S ( almost 11) turns into S18.
