Quote: I guess his hermit habits vs. my need for at least some sociability and change of scene are just another thing that doesn't bode well for our relationship in our upcoming empty nest phase because he has the tendency to feel abandoned when I do go out without him.
So I was riding down the bike path like a maniac this evening with The Pretenders on at max volume and I was thinking about your husband . Probably because it's a break from thinking about my wife, who, like your H, also hails from the Land of Angst.
Your H doesn't like people, but he doesn't want to be alone. Isn't it ironic? You are his lifeline to humanity. If he leaves you, he will be utterly and totally alone, without the inclination to reach out to others.
This is one of many ways that he needs you. It seems to me that his neediness makes him angry with you and loathe himself. When you come on here after a weekend blowout and your H wants a divorce, it always ends up a hollow threat. I guess it takes him 1-2 days for him to remember that he needs you.
He needs you, but he doesn't want you. You want him, but you don't need him. Isn't it ironic?
SM
P.S. Ignore everything I wrote. I'm probably just projecting.
P.P.S. I hope you were a good wifey and watched the Pistons game with H .
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
. Probably because it's a break from thinking about my wife, who, like your H, also hails from the Land of Angst.
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