Hp said......
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Don't you think part of the problem is your H's inability to be accountable for his actions?

I mean, it's one thing to be appalled at yourself but it takes a whole other level of disgust to swallow your pride and verbally apologize.
It also creates a sense of accountability in you, the offender--you OWN your boo boo and probably somewhere in the apology is a commitment to try and refrain in the future




Boy I really think you nailed it with this! I really think that could be what his problem is. He don't want to own up to it. Every once in awhile he will throw excuses out there. But when those excuses are gone he still won't own up to it.

That is just how my husband is also. JJ my husband said the same thing to me...you are over weight and that is the reason for my lowered sex drive. Well, I to lost the weight. He sure the heck hasn't changed!! So now I'm waiting for the next excuse. Oh wait there was one because I b**** and nag to much. Well, wahhhhh maybe if I got laid more often I would smile a whole lot more.LOL