Jenny, this thought occurred to me and I thought I would throw it out for your consideration.
Let's say you're a gustatory woman who enjoys sit-down dinners every night and you're married to a man who enjoys sit-down dinners but, sometimes all he wants is a sandwich in front of the tube. And that whenever he wants just a sandwich, you're stuck eating just a sandwich, too.
You have to allow him some leaway to have just a sandwich on occasion. The hard part is that there is no clearly defined line of what on occasion is. And you have to deal with the resentment that his choice leaves you eating sandwiches when there's much better things in the kitchen.
