if you know that you need xy and z to feel loved by your partner and they give you abc and expect you to be happy with it even though they know you need xyz what can you do?
when getting those needs met elsewhere is counterproductive (what good would it do my m to spend more social time with friends/family or find other people to fill my need for physical affection)
pretend that ab and c are enough? get put on medication to dull my desire for xyz (become a stepford wife, content that my h's needs are met and oblivious or accepting of the fact that my basic needs aren't)
continue to try and hear/feel xyz when I get abc (in other words deny my true feelings in hopes that they'll go away or some day I'll actually get xyz from an abc man)
leave and face not only not getting xyz needs met but also not having abc.
waiste more time trying to figure out why h so refuses to try xyz. (xyz is nothing kinky...just some qt and a little pa)
why am I continously made to feel like the villian for not being satisfied with abc. Abc is not enough and I shouldn't have to pretend it is.
would you hear a babies cry for food but choose to change their diaper instead becasue that's the way you show love?
If you expect your lawn to grow nice and green you've got to fertalize it and water it, not spray grape juice on it daily and sprinkle gumdrops on it twice a year...why would you think a relationship could grow healthy and strong without the things it needs.
LL
xyz= quality time (as little as an hour a night would be a great start), physical affection (a bit more than a peck hello and goodbye would probably make me melt at this point)
