Hmmmm, I guess that would be a no . . . been there/done that.
OK, before I leap into suggesting more stuff you've already done. Let me ask you this: What do you think were the reasons for H. having an A.? Not to dig up old painful crap, but if you can figure out what might have been the cirucumstances, it might lead to figuring out how to make things better.
Another question - what happens when you DO ask H. for help with the kids? What happens when you go up to him and give him a hug? What happens if you wake him up with a big kiss?
