I should add to that in the past I defended h's lack of time for us plenty.
even to his own family (bil, sil, bils w) they all thought we should have more of a life...I always told them he works hard so we can have the things we do...so we can have them over for cookouts and not have to worry about paying for the food. I appreciate all that but it's not enough and I can't pretend it is anymore. I was proven a fool for trying to believe h was just a workaholic and didn't need a r, affection, attention, I was a fool to have accepted "that's just the way I am" it's not! if it was he wouldn't have needed a r with ow would he?
I appreciate him...I thank him for what he does...I compliment the yard all the time...I pass on compliments from others.
I let him know when he's done or is doing something I like.
I'm not at all saying I'm the perfect wife...I don't think such a thing exists but he'd probably tell you himself that he's got it pretty damn good.
