I know you don't want to hear it and I'm pretty sure you don't believe it either but I've gone more than a week...more than a month...without making any requests..without making any complaints...without grouching, pouting, being frustrated, complimenting him etc. and as I've said before what it get's me is a happy h who's needs are met..but it does nothing for my needs. There are only so many of my own needs that I can meet without h's help..sure I can fill my need for social activity by making plans with friends and going places...to an extent I can fill my need for affection by hugging my children...BUT I can't go out and fill my need for affection/attention from a man and not be doing something wrong.
h went to a friends house yesterday afternoon to watch football...he called @ 9pm to tell me he may or may not come home...I didn't complain...didn't question nag etc. It's now noon and I haven't heard from him since last night at 9pm...pretty sure I wont hear from him until @ 6:30 pm or so tonight when he's on his way home if he even calls...will I complain? nope...I'll be out trick or treating with the kids and then taking them to a local farm to see a pumpkin lighting (they carve and light all the pumpkins that don't sell..could be 100 or more pumpkins all lit up pretty cool)...we'll (the kids and I) then come home probably to find h asleep..will I bother him to help with the kids? NOPE...I'll give them their baths/showers, read them their stories, make sure they brush their teeth, kiss them good night and then go about my business (either read a book, go to bed early or watch some tv).
