Look - he's not falling asleep to spite you! It's either the meds, a sleep disorder, severe depression, hypothyroidism, or narcolepsy - whatever it is, he needs medical treatment!
Ellie
In some sense he IS doing it to spite me. Part of it is due to the fact that he does wake early and does work hard BUT he could stay awake for a bit at least one night a week if he wanted to (did during his "courting" or returning home after seperation)...he just chooses not to.
I don't expect the man who leaves for work at 5:30 am and doesn't return til 7pm to be a party animal up all night with me but I don't see why he (as the boss after all) couldn't schedule one day light for himself so that he could stay awake and attentive with me for an hour or so after the kids have gone to bed (they're young and are both asleep by 9 during summer and 8 or earlier in winter) instead of simply going to bed at the same time or before them.
when I make this suggestion I am met with a wall "can't do it" which of course I read as "wont do it"
instead of making some (and I'm talking minimal here) time for US he's content to live in the "this is the stage we're in" meaning right now we're raising kids etc so that's it. HUH? how are we supposed to have a relationship with eachother when the house is paid off and the kids are grown if we don't foster it now?
I thought he had realized you can't just coast until some future time...he after all sought out a r with another woman...would that not show proof that simply existing to work and pay the bills isn't enough?
