Quote: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore." "We got married for all the wrong reasons." "I'm not attracted to you anymore." "Why can't you admit that we just made a mistake?"
what if the above statements are true and not just some recreation of history to fit a current mood. What if some of us really did "make a mistake" in marrying our spouses...what if we really aren't "inlove" with them and perhaps never were...what if there really is too much water under that bridge for us to be attracted to eachother anymore...
Honestly, I feel like h and I were the most honest with ourselves and eachother when we were talking about NOT being together.
I don't want to work on this m...seems pretty clear that h doesn't either so the question then becomes wich one of us is going to get out first...h already tried and just couldn't stomach leaving but is now taking pills to deal with his life...I can't make him leave and I sure as hell am not going to pack myself and my kids up to leave so what now...just go on pretending all is well until one day one of us is honest again?
I know piecing or even this website is not the place for these thoughts but I suppose it should give some the lesson that you'd better make sure what your true motivation is in wanting your spouse back...if it's fear of the unkown or comfort etc then think long and hard before you reconcile if the oportunity arises...I believe if I had it to do over again knowing what I know now I would have filed myself instead of letting h come back home.
