I don't post much and when I do it's in the mid life section but your post caught my attention.
I have been going through this since may 03 myself no I am still seperated not piecing.
What struck me was even though you have activities and GAL but no finanical independence.
The qoute that struck me from you H was
Quote: he just says with an attitude "must be nice to have a life"
It seems like there may be some resentment here on your H's part he may feel as though he is doing all the work footing the bill. Right or wrong this may be the way he is feeling.
after 2 years of reading everything I can find on MLC and such I have noticed a resentment on the WAS
If the LBS was a stay at home the WAS resent that the LBS'S don't in their minds contribute to the marriage They don't see the house chorse and the child raising as contributing even though it is they dont see it that way.
also on the other hand if the LBS was a career person the WAS resent that and see it as a lack of attention.
So the 180 idea is right.
Perhaps if you take a part-time job or even maybe take some classes towards a career even real estate classes. I tink most cities have real estate agencies that give classes either free or for a very low fee. I know taking care of children is work but perhaps your H is not seeing this right now. I am sure that you could perhaps trade off babbysitting with other moms in your mom's group to allow you to take some classes.
It's worth a shot see how your H reacts to this and even if he dosen't you will be advancing yourself towards financial independence away from him.
