Don't be too sure about this. I learned in a graduate class in marriage and family counseling that I took when I got my MA in psychology in 1977 that generally the "dump-er" is consumed by guilt (whether they show it or not) and the "dump-ee" is plagued with self-esteem problems. Having been on both sides of that equation (which I suspect most of us have been ), I think it holds true.
I know that GAL is really hard when you're the one that was left... when my live-in bf moved out (after I got the MA-- we met in the graduate psyc program)--I came back to the empty house and I felt like a three-year-old who had been abandoned at O'Hair Airport. I was 28 years old and totally lost. Somehow you have to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and eventually it gets better. Sometimes you don't notice until you look back and see how far you've come.
), I think it holds true. 
