Quote: Another thought I had was that money or success or lack of it can have a similar affect on a man's libido as overweight or getting wrinkles can have on a woman's.........She's subconsciously following the economic rule of scarcity. If she feels like her sexiness has a low inherent value, the only way to increase its value is to make it a scarce commodity
Good points JJ. I know the lack of money did lessen my drive around my back surgery time. No job, little income.
The woman making sex a scarse commody hits home. At several points in our M, I got to the point where the investment in time, emotions and giving was not worth the rewards.
There is a concept reward scheduel related to gambling and psychology. Also applies to training handicapped people in new jobs ot teaching daily activites skills.
It states to increase interest have a reward the subject choses, make the pay-outs random, ocassionally make the payoff big, make randon small pay-outs so people get some of the rush of a big pay-out. The longer the interval is between pay-outs, the more people want to be rewarded so stretch out the pay-outs. The problem is if pay-outs are too far apart, people lose interest. People also lose interest if they are over rewarded. (Over or under and especially the item considered to be the "rewarded" is an individual thing)
If you believe this concept is true to some extent, people who have less sex but want more are more motivated to try harder to have sex and value sex more, regardles of ones weight to a point, than people that have sex more often.
For Mr W and others I suppose this concept does not apply at a higher percentage as many people. I think it applies to most normal and HD people.
My problem is not so much associated with weight now. It is the too long interval and seemingly constant new/old problems coming up. sometimes the little reward is worth the effort. Sometimes I feel like giving up.
