I am so happy for you! This will be an excellent boost to your PMA for some time, not to mention your career.
You amaze me, having done this during a very rough time, and having had to face some harsh memories and emotions to complete the work. At some point, knowledge of your efforts and ability will be such a positive for your DDs as well.
Of course, I'll milk as much mileage out of being on the back cover as I can...
Yeah it makes me feel great. X of course is mortified, but I don't care
Friend came round this morning to mind DD4 for me, and she saw my book cover on the computer and she was so impressed!
She read the back and then asked 'when are you going to invite that American over here?' - LOL, she has an American bf so I think she has fantasies about the two of us both having American bf's! I told her you are in love with your XW and no one else, BIL is in love with me but I don't love him, I'm in love with X and he thinks he doesn't love me except he does. She said boy, this is way too complicated
I went to college after she took DD4 and did formulae all morning which was difficult and now my head is spinning.
Got chatted up by a bloke at least 45, on my break while I was trying to make a cappachino (sp?) and then the drinks machine over-flowed and he rescued me from being burned by Italian coffee. I was a bit irritated by him as I was trying to read this magazine and he was interrupting me.
Now me and DD4 are back home and I'm supposed to be paying bills and working on my new book (on the social and physical impact of divorce), but it's so sunny I can't concentrate.
I am slow to respond about your book, but better late than never. Your strength is just unbelievable, to have accomplished this during a time of chaos is simply amazing.
I think this will be the first of many, way to go.
I have to tease you about the "bloke?" at least 45. I am not sure what a bloke is, but I am guessing he wasn't very impressive. For some reason I picture a "bloke" as an overweight middle aged man?
Yes, when ARE you going to invite me across the pond, Jo?
I like how you're sitting tight in terms of your sitch, but pushing forward with your career, growth, and DDs. This is certainly to help lead you to a better place. It is up to Andy to grow and develop himself in a way that will meet your needs and earn your love in the future.
One thought I had about him and OW2 - if it is not a 'real' R, isn't this a sign of change (e.g., she hasn't moved in with him or truly become a sub-mother for the DDs as in the first sub-R)? Although this could be b/c she's put on the brakes, maybe it also reflects some growth in him, as might his bringing the girls by to see you (didn't have to do this to pick up the couch, right?).
Thanks for the compliment. The publisher is doing it in hard cover as well. I am really excited.
X is horrified. I have told him for the last 3 years that I am doing this and it took this long to write because I was still living the story, but now the day is finally happening and I seriously don't think he thought I would do it.
This book going through now is my third book. I've already written 2 others and numerous articles. One of my books is in all the libraries in my town. I was thrilled when that happened because when I go into the library and type my name into their computer, it comes up with my book!
But this is big time as it's the first time any of my work has been done by a big publisher or abroad. I have never sold to the States before (not on mass, anyway) so this is why I am so excited - plus the story line is one most journalists would kill for, so I am thinking this could really make my career.
No more poor writer and therapist, struggling by on nothing, eating baked beans for dinner because my pay doesn't come for another 5 days!
I will be rich, famous and successful on all the crappy things X has done to me, and he will be poor, no job, without the woman who loves him, and he will be jealous as hell
Quote: I will be rich, famous and successful on all the crappy things X has done to me, and he will be poor, no job, without the woman who loves him, and he will be jealous as hell
Ironic, isn't it?
It's interesting that for several posts you have mentioned the loving your X part. Obviously you do or you wouldn't be here, but I sense a softening on your part and maybe moving back towards where you were before he tried to run you over with his car. I'm not saying that it's bad, but he's come around when you were in ice princess mode and I'm sure truly gave him the undeniable impression that you were through with him. I wouldn't lose that. Milk that for awhile. Make him crawl back more and enjoy the jealousy.
Now the big question...when he does notice that all of the things you mentioned are true (ie rich and famous and he has no job or woman) and comes crawling...are you going to take him back? Or will you kick him to the curb?
We are all here because we haven't given up, but after you've come so far and done so much I'd hate to see him drag you down. I get the impression that his ego demands that he controls you and that you cannot be successful if he isn't more successful.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
A bloke is a person of male species, usually over the age of 21 and more than likely over the age of 35 with fairly rugged appearance but usually nice manners, except when watching football, in which case he then turns into a swearing foul mouthed beast. During such times he is accompanied by a can of beer, or more.
Common job types for a 'bloke' are builder, painter, gardener, DIY man, machanic. Ocassionally if he is the slightly more educated type of bloke, he will be an office manager and spend his life hollering at all 'his' workers and peering up the skirt of his secretary every time she walks passed him.
On the whole he has a good heart and refers to all his friends and neighbours as 'love' or 'darlin' but he seems to have an ever so inflated self-image and forgets that actually he's getting a bit podgy round the middle and that not all half-naked British stick insects will immediately want to marry him, like they did when he was 19.
Other foul habits of a bloke include: only tidying his flat when he has a woman round, leaving his underpants on the floor, smiling stupidly at every female he passes, trying to put his hand down his woman's top whilst watching football, and eating a bacon sandwich after ML whilst saying to his woman, 'it always makes me hungry'.
His ideal date is a jaunt to the fish and chip shop, a pint and a quick shag in the back of his car, but once a woman has captured his heart enough, it will take her the next 50 years to get rid of him.
