I used up all my legal aid in the 2 years we were in court last time. I can't get restraining orders because he has a contact order for DD4 so a restraining order would run counter to that. I looked into it the other week and both the police and my lawyer said I couldn't have one.
There is mediation but this is voluntary and with a C and I just know that he wouldn't listen and we'd argue in front of the C and I'm not setting myself up for another row.
I might be able to go to court in a year or so if they re-think my funding, but to be honest, I'm not sure it's fair on the girls to try and move them out of a home they've had since April 02, with a mother they've hardly seen. DD1 also said to me that she wants to stay where she is and in fact she wanted to go with him when he left, she has always been a daddy's girl.
DD2 and DD3 wanted to stay with me but he didn't listen.
I truly am done with all of it, especially fighting.
If he went to anger management and C and he gave up his women permanently and let me home ed our girls too I would re-consider DB'ing as an option, but not unless he did all of those and his C said he was making progress.
Otherwise the sanest option is just to back off and stay silent and basically let him mess everyone's lives up while I try to make mine and DD4's decent.
