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I told Wez off once too for misinterpreting one of my posts



Oh yeah, I remember that. But then your thread locked up and I could never reply to that. And here we are full circle again. I didn't misinterpret your sitch, I just misstated my position. I wanted to come back to that because we are back at the kids again. I was trying to suggest (poorly) that you are the bigger person and maybe by showing him that you can bend a little bit on visitation that maybe he could take his head out and do the same.

So why getting back to this. Jo, this guy has kicked you in the teeth figuratively numerous times and tried his hardest to ruin things with your kids. I agree with everyone that has posted he's a jerk. I just hate to see a jerk winning.

And I know that because of him things likely feel unnatural with the three kids he has custody of. But I refuse to believe that they don't love you and want to be part of your life. You're their mother and no OW#1 OW#2 or OW#18,000 is ever going to take your place. Why do you think that adopted kids still seek out their biological parents after so long? It makes me really sad that your jerk of an ex-H has made it seem easier to just not see your darling kids. And I hope he hasn't truly poisoned their minds.

The thing I alluded to all those months (or however long) ago was that maybe if you bend a little so will he. But now today I'm not sure. He sounds like such as ass that I don't know. I had struggles with my ex also about visitation and I always kissed ass/gave in trying keep the piece so that visitation would go more smoothly and that when I did want my kids for my birthday or when my parents were in town that she wouldn't throw a wrench in the works. I think that's what Lou was suggesting too. That it might take a little kissing up, but if you can have your daughters that it's worth it.

Does your ex respond to any of that kind of stuff? Or is he just such a control freak that it wouldn't matter?

The one other thing I neglected to post....about the appearing indifferent and angry when he's around. Are you sure that isn't giving him the impression that he's got to you? That he's gotten under your skin? I would hate that he would have any satisfaction. Uggghhhhhhh

Hopefully this time I did a better job at expressing my point. Would it help if I flirt with you too? Because I will. Just let me know.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt