I can see why you say the things you do with regards to money and I already have a fair amount of debt for the next 2 years from when he got EX-OW and I spent till I dropped. I know the trouble you have had with your W over her spending and that's why you say it and I agree with you. However, the old sofa has gone now so I'm taking the new one. I am just going to try and get some of my bills down the rest of this year.
Re the pub - English pub culture is different to American pub culture. It's part of society (especially for men) and practically every other street has a 'local'. I'd say 95% of British people go to pubs and quite a lot of them do it on a regular basis.
My evening do for my wedding was held in the local pub - we hired the upstairs room and had a live jazz band. X's mother also had her wedding reception in a pub across the street from her house, so did my brother and my nephew's Christening reception was held in a pub!
I guess they are like the focal point of the neighbourhood and people go there to hang out and drink beer and play pool and do the pub 'quiz'.
The types of places I think you refer to are like trendy bars or night clubs, which I have never been to and never wanted to.
I don't intend to meet anyone, just that it's somewhere to go for a pint and to listen to music and I don't have to sit in the house on my own. I won't accept drinks from people, though, as you have to be careful about date rape and stuff, where they put something in your drink.
I don't understand your comment 'not giving a short reply to Andy one of your childrens dad' - he is the father of ALL four of my girls, not just the little one.
Remember I became his partner at age 16 so there was no one prior to him and all of our children were born within the marriage. Just thought I'd clarify that point, unless I have misunderstood your comment.
Also, why do you think I should talk to him? He told me he loved me and wanted me back etc, then he was violent and now I discover he's playing away for the SECOND time in 20 months.
If your W had slept with another man behind your back whilst telling you she loved you, wouldn't you kick her out of your house? I just feel I am above him at the moment and that I'm too good for him. I'm also furious that he wouldn't let me have my other dd's on her birthday when he said I could before.
I don't deserve to be treated like that so I really don't see why I should grace him with a reply.
