It really sucks to see someone we once loved and respected make wrong decision after wrong decision, especially when those choices continue to affect loved ones.
You have a nice way of staying realistic and balanced regarding the limitations a sitch may have, noting that these may be temporary. Nicely done dusting yourself off and getting back at things like Book 2 (wow!) and classes. You are so amazingly resilient.
X's PMA is high right now - perhaps in part cause of OW2. Once the reality hits within that R, you'll see changes in him. I wonder how he is affording all these toys?
DD4 is blessed to have you as her Mommy, Jo. Taking her to see a farm sounds like a great outing.