Jo, So puzzle me this, if "you are trying to put it right" you see it our past counselor sees it for that matter evertone sees it, why does my W campaign this divorce? She's 57 and today was our 34th wedding anniversary. Her family is scattered around the country. What am I missing? Michelle has a wonderful article entitled "foregiveness is a gift you give yourself." Why doesn't that resonate with my W if I've changed so much?